Conflict and Compromise

Have we forgotton how to compromise? I’m using a very general “we” some of you may be brilliant at it.

I ask the question because our brilliant, diverse country seems more divided than ever. It seems that when it comes to certain tissues you need to pick your side, hold and defend it with everything you’ve got even when presented with evidence that completely contradicts your point and destroys your argument.

The most obvious example of this is Brexit. You’re either a Leaver or Remainer. I’m desperate for us to stay in the EU, I’ve campaigned for it, taken part in marches, emailed people, signed petitions, joined groups, tweeted, facebooked the lot. For this I’ve been called a traitor, libtard, snowflake etc. On the other side side I’ve seen leavers called thick, un-educated, racist, gammon, the lists go on.

The country is split and divided more now than I can remember for a long time. Some people were triggered last week because Greggs introduced a Vegan Sausage Roll! I was hoping that 2019 would be the year we started to come back together. Unfortunately I’ve seen no sign of this, I fear that things are going to get much worse before they get better. When Jo Cox was murdered you would have hoped people would have learnt from that awful tragedy. Instead can anybody confidently predict that something similar won’t happen again soon.

So  – how do we come back together? It’s got to be by compromise, surely? Look back through history, how are disputes settled when there is no clear winner? They’re resolved by settlements, by each side giving a little in order to feel like they have still gained something. Think about when you have had an argument with a loved one. How did you resolve it? Compromise is not a sign of weakness, it’s a strength. It demonstrates that you’re prepared to listen and accept that the other side may have some vaild points and grievances. That can take courage.

Going back to Brexit , the unfortunate thing is one side will eventually “win” and there is going to be a lot of unhappy people. I guess what we have got to do is stop the name calling and the confrontations and the assumptions about what type of person is a remainer or leaver. I accept that people voted Leave for lots of different reasons and they do have some valid reasons. Having said that, if you voted Leave because you don’t like foreigners or people who have different coloured skin please don’t read this blog or follow me. What we need to do is look at the reasons why people felt the way they did when they voted and start to do something about it. If not, we learn nothing and we remain divided. When this is over there will be no winners, not really. So I hope that there is no gloating or posturing. There is so much work to do to bring us back together. Just remember what it was like when the 2012 Olympics were on. That is the country I love and am proud of! 

Knowing that is what this country is capable of gives me hope that we can get it back. We all have a part to play but the press and politicians need to start telling us the truth. If you’re struggling to know who to trust and who to believe, stop and think – what’s in it for this person, what have they got to gain from holding this point of view. It works for me!

On a more positive note my blog received it’s first award from another blogger at the weekend! It made my day, knowing that people are reading this and taking something from my blogs is massive to me.

I would love to know what you think of today’s blog and if you have any examples of when you have had to compromise in order to get an outcome. I would also be happy to try and answer any questions you may have about Brexit, I’m getting slightly obsessed!!

Take care x

5 thoughts on “Conflict and Compromise

  1. I think the reason our country is so fraught about politics is because we’re all fed up with the way things are and have different ideas of how to solve the issue. People have become a lot more interested in politics as brexit has come on, and with the uncertainty of our futures, people are struggling to find the humanity to remain civilised. I think it’s also put a barrier between the two “sides”, and this has transpired into other events, like the vegan sausage roll thing you mentioned. I’m hoping that once this whole Brexit situation is sorted we’ll be back to normal, but I think realistically it’ll take time. Lots of countries in Europe are in a period of change at the moment (Just look at the civil unrest in France), but hopefully we’ll find some way to get over this and reach peace soon.

    On a happier notes, congratulations on getting your first blogging award!

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  2. Loved this. The country really is divided at the moment, and you’re so right we can definitely do with some sort of compromise, the 2012 Olympics were amazing and the country really did get together and it was a lovely sight and thing to be apart of. Here’s hoping to better things!

    Chloe xx


  3. I love the positivity behind this because I’ve seen so much negativity about Brexit, and it’s making me fear for the future (especially after hearing the rise in hate crime against those of different cultural backgrounds during the voting). I really hope we can come up with some sort of compromise!

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  4. Another great post, James. In all honesty, it’s gone past the point where I even understand what’s going on. But obviously I know there will be a huge divide when the final decision is made. There’s going to have to be some sort of compromise somewhere along the line otherwise it’ll be chaos!


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